FEELING Broken Hearted is just about the worst pain in the world. It can also seem endless - luckily it isn't.
So, you are nursing a broken heart? What you have to remember is that
you can get through it. Ask around and you will find that loads of
people you know have had their hearts broken. Most of them are OK now.
And one day you will be OK too. Better than that, you will be fine. But
right now, it is hard to believe that.
First love
Getting over your first love is incredibly difficult. This is because we all think our first, real, wonderful, romantic love will last forever. Funnily, we don't look at our friends and their early relationships and think that they will last forever. And we know statistically that most people do not fall in love at 17 or thereabouts and stay with that person for life. But knowing these things does not seem to stop us from feeling that our
particular
first love is golden and timeless and unlike any other. So when it ends,
it's shattering. The only comfort is that this romance has shown you
how much love you have to give. And people with love to give are
attractive individuals that others are drawn to. One day, you will look
back at your first love and realise that it was a great dress rehearsal
for subsequent relationships. But you are unlikely to feel that right
now. Single? Worry not! It's time to start having some fun. Here are
theSite.org's top tips for being single and happy!Getting over your first love is incredibly difficult. This is because we all think our first, real, wonderful, romantic love will last forever. Funnily, we don't look at our friends and their early relationships and think that they will last forever. And we know statistically that most people do not fall in love at 17 or thereabouts and stay with that person for life. But knowing these things does not seem to stop us from feeling that our
Treat yourself gently
You can feel so 'knocked' after your heart is broken that you feel seriously ill, or as if you have been in a car crash. So, treat yourself as if you are recovering from a bad illness or a road traffic accident. Let other people care for you, too. Get as much sleep as possible. Eat lovely foods. Convalesce. And allow yourself to cry - even if you're a bloke. It is horrible at the time, but you will feel better afterwards. All in all, take life gentle - you've had a shock, and your mind and body need time to get over it.
You can feel so 'knocked' after your heart is broken that you feel seriously ill, or as if you have been in a car crash. So, treat yourself as if you are recovering from a bad illness or a road traffic accident. Let other people care for you, too. Get as much sleep as possible. Eat lovely foods. Convalesce. And allow yourself to cry - even if you're a bloke. It is horrible at the time, but you will feel better afterwards. All in all, take life gentle - you've had a shock, and your mind and body need time to get over it.
Pep up your social life
Your friends will help you get over it. Soon, they will be asking you to come out in a group to the cinema or the pub or whatever. At first, you won't be in the mood, but soon you will realise that there are some bonuses to being single again. In fact, you'll find that this is a good time to do stuff that you didn't do with your ex. So now you can go to the sorts of films that you like, or you can listen to your type of music, or go on your type of holiday.
Your friends will help you get over it. Soon, they will be asking you to come out in a group to the cinema or the pub or whatever. At first, you won't be in the mood, but soon you will realise that there are some bonuses to being single again. In fact, you'll find that this is a good time to do stuff that you didn't do with your ex. So now you can go to the sorts of films that you like, or you can listen to your type of music, or go on your type of holiday.
Look back to look forward
Once you are over the stage of feeling shocked and ill, try to look back at your relationship as it really was, not through the rose-tinted spectacles you have worn for so long.
Once you are over the stage of feeling shocked and ill, try to look back at your relationship as it really was, not through the rose-tinted spectacles you have worn for so long.
Write a list of the things that you don't miss about your ex. At
first you will be thinking that you loved everything about this person,
but you didn't. What about those awful jokes, the rows, how you always
had to make the arrangements if anything was to get done, the times when
your ex put you down or made you feel stupid or how they didn't like
your best mate? There are always elements to our past love that weren't
right, and this is a good time to focus on them.
Start again
Sometimes when our hearts are broken, we want to find someone new to love us as soon as possible. This is natural - but unwise. Your best bet is to embrace your single life wholeheartedly for six months or so. Your emotions are not going to settle for quite a while, so have fun, but don't go looking for anything else serious until you are happy without your ex. You will know you are getting over your heartache when you can get through a whole day without thinking about them.
sourcesSometimes when our hearts are broken, we want to find someone new to love us as soon as possible. This is natural - but unwise. Your best bet is to embrace your single life wholeheartedly for six months or so. Your emotions are not going to settle for quite a while, so have fun, but don't go looking for anything else serious until you are happy without your ex. You will know you are getting over your heartache when you can get through a whole day without thinking about them.
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